How to Raise a Tall Girl Who Doesn’t Make Herself Small

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Being “bigger” translates to awesomeness when you’re in preschool

When Ashley was in preschool she was a natural leader — her teachers said the kids would follow her around and listen to her speak. In elementary school, Ashley was always the one in the middle back row of the risers such that one year she was touching the basketball net with her head. She didn’t emerge as a leader as she did at preschool — she was a bit shyer and more reserved.

Being tall makes you feel different during the years when all you want is to be like everyone else

I grew up as a tall girl, or relatively tall at 5’10”. I was always conscious of it — it was something I carried with me like my race, religion, or socioeconomic status. I’ve grown to love it and appreciate it, but it was a journey.

Society has an unconscious bias toward tall girls.

Unless they are on the runway or in the swimsuit edition, tall girls are scary. It makes it difficult as a parent to teach my daughter body positivity when the world around her has embraced a “smaller” woman. As parents, we need to recognize these biases and teach our kids how to deal with them — whether your daughter is short or tall, big or small, loud or quiet, or any other opposite of what society deems “normal.”

I thought by now I’d have everything figured out…

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